"If the sexual attraction is gone, then its just a friendship."

That's not true at all. You're trying to simplify relationships into two groups 1.) sexual and 2.) friendship

as if those were the only things that mattered. But just because you aren't having sex/sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean they're doomed to be only a friend. For me (hey maybe it's just me) but I can be friends with someone, and think they're very sexually attractive, but if I can't connect with them intellectually, hold a real conversation or discussion or argue about opinions, then that's the real deal breaker for me. Sex isn't everything, and it's a little sad that people think that's the only thing that separates friendship from a SO.

Besides, tons of things affect how you feel about someone. For example, even if you're not usually attracted to a certain type of person you see across a room, if they have a certain confidence, or your friend whispers that they look interested in you, or if everyone else seems fascinated by that person, your interest is automatically piqued and your opinion of them is subconsciously altered.
Plus, there's something called the 'mere exposure effect,' so that the more you're exposed to someone, the more used to it you get, and the more positively you feel about it. Which is why you often view your friends and family as attractive, or why your SO gets more attractive with time. It's all psychology.

I'm not negating what you said, though. I agree that people are shallow. I'm just adding to it that it's more than simply symmetrical features that is part of that shallowness.

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Oh yea, i agree with what you're saying. Its not only physical attributes that make people attractive. There are many other factors that go into how you feel about someone, you've hit that nail on the head. however, when you first meet someone, see them across the room, whatever, people make judgments based on looks. its definitely a key point i think, and people who say they aren't shallow are really just lying to themselves. It needs to be accepted, thats how we work.

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Yo, just to say, xanga has changed sooooo much since I last logged in. It's scary..... 0_0

Anyhoo, I get what you're saying about how everyone is somewhat shallow, but, it's not that everyone is shallow, it's more that our first initial instinct is to use our eyes. Human beings are first and foremost visual creatures, and if we see something shiny or something visually pleasing, we're gonna want to look at it some more. And yes, I'll admit, some people will judge something based on how it looks, but overall, it's getting to know it--learning more about it--that gets us to be further attracted to it.

Say you see a handsome-looking fellow. Now I know you. You'll want him. But you won't want him just because of how he looks. He could be the most gorgeous man that has ever crossed your way, but if he has no clue who our president is at the current moment, or knows the sum of 1 and 3, then you're gonna be bored with him.

It's when you actually do get to know the person--who they are, how they think, how you to and connect--when you decide whether you're fully attracted to them or not.

Of course the first look is gonna be for looks. Duh. Why do we dress the way we do and put on our make-up they way we do? It's because we really do care how we look--whether it's for the public, or for yourself. But attraction--true attraction--is skin deep. What drives us to yearn for their call at night is because we love to talk to them--get a really great, fun, intellectual conversation going.

I think people are shallow, yes, but for the most part, when it comes to someone "checking someone out" it's because we all are visual creatures. I bet dollars to donuts that when you pass by a shiny item, you say to yourself, "Oooohhh. Shinnnny...." And it's because you're visually stimulated.

And don't even deny it. You've done that in my presence, lol.

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I'm still have no clue how to delete this thing..... Lol.
~~Julie

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Is it true that the winter olympics are gonna be in Canada? Because if that's true, I'm totally gonna fucking go and visit you.

Good to see someone's unabashedly honest. :) Looking at your profile and pic, I have to ask--do you play pool? I live in Montgomery County too and often go to the Germantown Rec Center to play, haha.